Esther Perel, a couples therapist and author, is uncommonly eloquent about a subject that most people would not talk about in public, yet make a profession of.  Last July, Ms. Perel gave an opening talk at Summit Outside, a three-day meeting of 900 entrepreneurs and creative types held on Powder Mountain in Eden, Utah.

“Think of a moment when you have an experience of major adventure, of novelty, of surprise, of mystery, of risk,” Ms. Perel, 55, asked the audience, “A moment perhaps where you express desires in your body that you usually don’t allow yourself to know.”

 Ms. Perel’s talk addressed the paradox of wanting both adventure and security in monogamous relationships. The presentation went over well with the audience. Well-known gurus like the Zappos chief executive, Tony Hsieh, and the TED darling J R, a street artist and photographer were all there and they were surprised when more than half the event’s 900 guests turned up the next morning to hear her talk on “Love, Sex and Power.”

To meet the demand.Ms. Perel ended up holding three additional workshops. “

Just to highlight some of her achievements:

  • Since 2006, when Ms. Perel published a best-selling book, “Mating in Captivity,”
  • She has become a go-to speaker on sexuality and relationships in the world of couples therapy as well as in the luxury self-actualization set.
  • She frequently runs discussions at resorts during events that the self-improvement mogul Tony Robbins holds for his Platinum Members, among the biggest donors to his foundation.
  • She spoke at Omega’s winter learning vacation in Costa Rica.
  • Her 2013 TED talk, the “Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship,” had one million hits in the first two weeks it was posted, taking on an apparent epidemic of low-libido marriages in what is theoretically the least repressed era in modern history.

Ms. Perel has captured attention in the era of the oversexed. Instead of offering more explicitness, she writes and talks about the aspects of sexuality that can’t be captured on a screen, the hidden, psychological states that do or do not set the mechanics in motion.

Source: NY Times