The people who you associate with have overwhelming influence in your life. This spring cleaning, try cleaning out you ‘friend’ closet. There are probably some toxic people in there who are undermining your confidence, betraying your trust, and spreading negativity. These are the type of toxic people you should get rid of or, at the very least, avoid as much as possible.
1. The one’s that use up all your time.
Friends or family, they are out there in search of your time like bank robbers! Yes, you have heard it all before.
These are the people who often want want and want, but never give. As soon as you figure out who they are, it may be time to drastically reduce your exposure to these people or just get rid of them. They will waste too much of your time, but only if you let them.
If you can’t get rid of them, just try switching off your phone at certain times of the day or simply invent urgent messages or callers. We all need alone time.
2. Those who criticize you too often.
Its a good thing to have someone telling you the truth, there is nothing wrong with a bit of honest and fair feedback. But when you find that certain people are engaging you in constant criticism, it may be time to take action. You might even drop them a hint that they are going to lose any friends they have left.
3. Those who play the victim all the time.
These weasels are the experts at the blame game. They never take ownership of their own shortcomings or mistakes. They are the victim and it just never seems to be their fault! It always seems to be the fault of their colleagues or their upbringing which never really gave them a chance.
These people just have to be avoided at all costs and avoid being pulled in, because they may start to involve you in their blame game. These are also the ones that love to stir up drama.
4. Those with a short temper.
These are the ones who really drain your energy. They are usually the ones that have silly outbursts of anger. We all have difficult moments. Keeping self-control will test us to our limits and we usually have ways of controlling it.
These short-fused people are underdeveloped psychologically and their emotional intelligence is hovering around zero. There is no need for them to be part of your inner circle.
5. Those who show no compassion or empathy.
The people that are not capable of lending a sympathetic ear or understanding your problems when you need them to be around, are people you don’t want to be around. These people have personality problems and some of them display narcissist tendencies.
They do not have the ability to put themselves in other people’s shoes.
6. The Liars.
“Lying is done with words, and also with silence.”- Adrienne Rich
Have you ever told a friend something in secrecy, but then they go around spreading your business to others? Dishonest and untruthful people can also do harm in many other ways. They may lie to you about their debts or if they are having problems at work. They may also be insincere and lie to you about what they think of your behavior when you ask them for feedback.
This will often result in a damaged friendship over time because trust, truthfulness and honesty are the most precious qualities in any friendship. If they do these things, they are not worthy of your friendship.
7. The ones that try to manipulate you.
These are known as the ninjas. They are the friends who just want to use you to get an introduction to an important person you know, a job interview or even a date. They use gossip as a weapon and there is always a hidden agenda. They are angling for that job so they will make sure you do not apply.
Do not let them manipulate you.
Inpsired by LifeHack