When oversharing becomes overbearing.
How often have you been somewhere – quietly enjoying a meal, at the nail or hair salon, when someone randomly strikes up a conversation with you that takes a dangerous turn into the TMI zone?
Strangers seem to think it’s okay to unload on unsuspecting, and too polite to run away, fellow strangers these days. For instance, I’ve heard about explicit sexual acts while getting my gels removed or while getting a blowout. Kind of kismet – hearing about blowjobs while at the Blow Bar!
Diseases, incest, rape, domestic violence, drug use, bankruptcy, shoplifting, arson and even worse are widely and loudly discussed at dogparks, diners, on the subway, minding one’s business in the park or on the beach, and even in line at Marshalls and Best Buy (for some reason these stores attract the TMI sharers).
In this age of instant information access and everyone writing books about incest and surviving cancer and domestic and sexual abuse, maybe people feel free to air their stories and screenplays – just in case a potential Hollywood big wig is listening?
Hiking Runyon Canyon is like one long and jumbled movie script with snippets of delicious conversation overheard (because people tend to talk about the most personal matters loudly while it echoes through the canyon).
If you find yourself telling a complete stranger something that you haven’t even shared with your BFF, stop and ask yourself why are you doing this? Therapists get paid big bucks to listen to you rave on about how you felt overshadowed by your older sibling or how your boyfriend doesn’t like to eat you out. Someone harmlessly walking their dog at 6am may not feel like listening and giving advice…
WRITTEN BY FIONA RUSSELL FOR FEMDE